Finally something that’s pretty accurate

Have you ever been in an arguement with someone only to wish that you had statistics/an article/scientific proof to back up your side?

I have. In fact, several months ago I got in quite a few arguments with an online friend about how I behave.

Now, I am an introvert. He was an extrovert. Very much a people person, being with people made him happy, like they were his hobby. He thrived on people.

Now, we didn’t know each other in real life - only online. That means all our communication depended on us both being online at the same time. We only talked through MSN - never email.

Because I’m an introvert, I would sometimes be online for hours and hours without logging into MSN. Not because I was ignoring him or anything, but just because I just didn’t want to chat. I just wanted to sit, relax, surf around, listen to music - enjoy my own time.

This caused many fights between us. He would sit waiting and waiting for me to log on to talk with him. He just couldn’t understand why I would be online but not on MSN.

He figured that if I liked him then I would log on to talk to him all the time. That when I wasn’t feeling well I would talk to him. That when I was bored I would talk to him. That I would go out of my way to talk to him - if I really liked him, that is.

But because I didn’t do that, he would sometimes think that I didn’t care about him. But nono, that’s not the case. I did care! I just need time to myself!

I need it. Like I need oxygen. I don’t like sitting and talking to people all the time. It gets tiring. After awhile it gets to the point where I’m agitated and exhausted and just waiting for it to get late enough for me to claim I’m going to bed - without someone getting mad.

I don’t understand how some people can just talk all the time.

And no matter how many times I tried to explain it to him - it was still always an issue. He just didn’t seem to get it.

Now you must be asking: What does this have to do with your original question?

Well, I found a well written and pretty accurate article about introverts and how we are (written by an introvert). After reading it I desperately wish I had found it before - so I could have made him read it. Maybe make him understand.

I’m not a stuck up, antisocial, I-hate-you type of girl! I’m not quiet because I’m trying to be rude or ignore you.

Who knows, it could have saved us from a few hours of fighting.

Now, I’ll stop being so self-centered by talking only about myself. Are you an introvert or extrovert? How well do you get along with/understand the other?

Do tell your stories.